I was invited for a simple get together of friends. I was surprised when I arrived in the venue. I never knew that there were bars (small booths) at the back of East West Café and Philosophy at Juana Osmeña St. along Mango Avenue. It was a pretty decent place. The crowd is young and hip. I can say that mostly were college students and yuppies. I manage to blend in although I was thinking that I don’t belong to the demographics. (It’s all in the mind….)
Talks get more exciting and even hotter with the re-mix pop music at the background. When young grown ups get together they usually discuss about sex, relationship and even careers. Carl, Kakay and Yvone were there. We had a very casual conversation about intimacy and commitment. Carl is married man so somehow he is a very good resource person. I tried to ask questions about what will make him stay in a relationship? How will you know that the person you were with is the person you should be with?
When it was his turn to ask questions on me, I was bombarded with questions I am not ready to answer. I answered them hypothetically.
Is intimacy an essential element for commitment?
Can you demand intimacy?
What is intimacy for you?
We have different views with Carl. I don’t know why but it seems that I am ultra-conservative… (although it doesn’t show..)
Intimacy is not an element of commitment. Probably it is an indication of a commitment but it should not be a measure of it. Commitment is a decision while intimacy is instinctive.
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